Picture a bonfire with the night sky above it. An elder stands up to tell stories, framed by the light and the darkness.
Stories are sacred, magical things. They teach and unify and entertain and create a shared value system. Stories are fundamentally human, as ancient as our DNA, as important as our immune system.
In this book, I use stories to call us back from our wild branching apart, to soften the divisions between left and right, urban and rural, old and young, male and female (and et all), type A’s and type nays.
This book will help you expand your empathic imagination, and increase your confidence in your own ability to connect.
The more socially comfortable we are, the more we can bring our most generous selves to each other.
About
How To Be Human, Actually
This book is my attempt to create that fire, to be that elder, to tell a story that reminds you of who you are and where you fit and that you and me and all of us belong here, belong now, belong to each other.
Stop Accidentally Being An Asshole
How To Be Human and Not An Asshole gives you clear, doable ways to handle conflict, set boundaries, and connect without feeling fake. If you like it straight, grab the book on Amazon or Barnes & Noble.
“Honest, funny, and actually useful. Finally, advice I can follow without rolling my eyes.”
— Aya Nakamura
Notes
Quick ideas on being less weird with other humans.
*Most people are too busy being self-conscious to judge you
*The best social event is one where the host is relaxed not one where the house or the food is perfect.
*Saying “I’m sorry” instantly makes you 25% better looking.
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Hello World!
I’m a clinical social worker with nearly three decades of experience working with anxiety disorders, trauma, and ADHD. Also: I can be a real asshole sometimes. This book is my attempt to be a kinder, gentler Tanya and to help you good folks do the same.
If you have a book group and want to read and discuss my book, I will attend your book discussion via Zoom if you’d like.
Updates
Occasional emails, zero spam, about new writing and events.
Contact Tanya
Have a question about the book, events, or rights? Reach out and Tanya will respond personally.
123 Example Street, San Francisco, CA 12345(123)-456-7890
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